Winner or Loser!!

12 August 2010, 1840 hrs,

Writing after a long period of time! I wanted to write, But Don’t know why, life engulfed me into it, and I was always kept busy in unnecessary things. Had great experiences in past few months. The biggest of them was that I gave my last exam of Degree as I graduated from my college! We all know that one day, life will change, life will deviate from all those paths which we are walking on, life will show all those things which we expected and not. All in all, Life will guide us to the end! But the difference is that, how? We all have different stories, We all have different roles in life. We do different things, different thoughts and different minds. Everyone of us have a motto, some like me don’t have that too! People starts planning about their lives as they grow, people start executing them as they live on. But, there are people, who make plans, make ideas, make minds! But are unable to execute them at right time and right place! Even they never execute them! One of those kinds is me! In Past few years, I learnt, that My life is like a game. Every time I try to win, I fail! People come into this game, they play, they score and they win! And now I think that why life is like this to me? Why I see that phase of my life, which others don’t? Why I am a Looser and who is the winner?

Above lines do confirm it that I am a looser! But there are people, who always say to me that I am not a looser! They say that I have won many things, especially their hearts! And they say that winning hearts of friends is the biggest victory one can taste! Despite of them, there are People, who says me that I am a looser! They say that I never won their heart and that I never tried to won them!

Everyone has different opinion, different views. From all those people who said me good or bad, I learnt One great thing! Life is yours, if God has gifted it to you, then you should know that how to manage it in every deal. If People say you bad, it means you never shared a good relationship with that Particular group of people. This doesn’t mean that you share a bad relationship with everyone! This doesn’t mean that you are looser for everyone! It’s just our mind, which feels us degraded and that our bad relationships make us feel sad for all aspects of life! If you are bad for few people, it doesn’t mean that you are bad for everyone! Whenever you feel like this, just think of those people who loves you, who shares good relationships with you! And then think that life has much to do! Forget those bad parts, look for good things in your life. Always watch out for positive aspects of life, this will help you recover better.

And now, I realise, that you are never a looser, until you loose yourself! Until you lose your dignity, your self-respect and most importantly your faith on yourself!

So now, I feel good and my thoughts about myself has changed. I may be looser for some people, but I am not from my own! I know that I can win, I know that I can move ahead, then why i believe on others! It’s My life, and I know how to manage my deals..

Wrote in frustration, fumbled state of mind! But feels better to share with all of you.

Keep Smiling, Keep Winning, “Life is yours, Make it large!” (At least A very Good Line from a whisky advertisement! ROYAL STAG.....lol)

Will be back with a daring experience of me in few days.... tc

The Story from Afghanistan....

Sorry sorry guys!! M soo sorry for posting after a month!!

Actually i just got stuck into my daily stuff at college! i dont know why, but m indulging into busyness day by day!! Never got time to write! nd now also, dont think that i have written anything today, i was reading my mails and meantime i got with Mala's Mail (My Mom's Cousin in US). Actually She forwarded me Jim's Mail (Her Hubby). Jim is nowadays in Afghanistan as a part of US Army (NATO Campaign). When i read it, it was just more than awesome!! Beautifully written with Honesty and Sensibly! The story of Afg. was never been told before so evocatively and profoundly.

Am going to Copy Paste The Email Written By Jim, For you Guys:Here I Go

Jim Writes:

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Kabul reminds me a lot of Delhi. Except it looks as Delhi might after a bombing campaign. The streets are mostly dirty, but it's been raining here so the mud sticks to everything as if it were a dark, thick sausage gravy. The sky is gray enough to block out whatever mountain scenery the buildings don't hide. Most of the buildings are made from dilapidated stone, however there are occasional compounds that take my mind back down the narrow streets of Muktsar, where a two or three story marble facade stands behind a tall stone wall that is tipped with barbed-wire and accessed by a thick steel gate. There aren't quite as many people in the streets in Kabul as in Delhi or Muktsar, though, and women make up much less a proportion of passers-by in this country.

Walking through the city, people seem fairly friendly but wary. Except for children, who beg for money or anything else one might part with. Everyone has a story here and it's interesting to learn what I can from my surroundings.

The bases I've been at are extremely different from those in the U.S. 44 countries have sent troops here; some say 45 because the Marine Expeditionary Brigade in Helmand is like a country unto itself. Around every corner is a different language and uniform and opinion of how this war should be fought and might be won. It seems like the entire world is here and it's fascinating to think about the implications of the recent troop surge and strategy review. A few days ago, Major General Flynn said, "I've heard people describe this [as] 'we're fighting a bunch of guys in shower shoes and bathrobes.' Well, a bunch of guys in shower shoes and bathrobes could beat 44 nations of the international community." That international community is formed by most of the same nations that comprise NATO--most of the same nations that used Afghanistan as a multidimensional chessboard upon which the Soviet curtain cracked and shattered. It's chilling to think that the combined might of the most lethal fighting forces the world has ever known walks the ridge line of the Hindu Kush, with a chasm on either side. To the left is the battle-fatigue of ordinary people who feel like pawns. To the right is an echelon of bishops, perhaps the world's most battle-hardened warriors, calling for religious war.

It's a narrow path to victory here. The people are fed up with our presence. The enemy needs only to wait us out while we check our watches and look for the exit. The government is strengthening at a quickening pace, but the militaries of the West are riddled with commanders who are empire-builders; what we really need is a cadre of those willing to work themselves out of a job.

There is promise, though, in the climate here. As the winter snows melt into winter rains, there is a nascent but palpable shift in perception among the command. There are several thousands of questions that one might ask in order to determine if this perceptual shift will yield an Afghan government that has clawed it's way to functionality and stability amid a hailstorm of opposition and corruption. We can't pretend to know the answer to those questions, but we have to seize the opportunity and hope for the best.

Last week there was a bombing, which Vani tells me is all over the Indian news because it looks like the attack targeted Indian concerns operating near the Afghan Government buildings. Some news reports indicate the attack was a simultaneous suicide bombing that was well coordinated and targeted outsiders assisting what the insurgents call an apostate government.

I've heard many stories about what's going on here; it seems like everyone has a small portion of the truth... just shiny and illustrious enough to convincingly pass as the whole picture of what's going on. In that, it reminds me of every other place I've visited or lived. This country makes me wonder what funhouse mirrors I look at while guessing the meaning of the shadows that dance on the wall.

There was an earthquake that hit about 100 miles north of here this morning. It shook most of us awake a few minutes before 0400. I heard it registered at 5.7. I think it's likely that our enemies will try to convince the undereducated rural population in the northern provinces that today's earthquake was a sign of God's anger with Western occupation. Just like they probably claim Hurricane Katrina was a symptom of God's wrath at our decadent society. Just like they remind the folks here that a few years ago they fought and defeated the Russians. And before that their fathers fought and defeated the British. And so on for time immemorial.

Chess was born in Afghanistan, and most of the worlds' nations are overtly or covertly playing the same game here still. However, the one advantage that we have over the imperial powers that have sent soldiers through these mountains over the eons is that we're not building an empire here. Anyways, Living Here is a part of my life, I am sure i will enjoy it and will learn a lot from here! Hope to see you guys Soon back in US & India.

Love,

-Jim

This all Guys! am sure you will be by now feeling amazing after reading this!

I Promise i will Write Within few days!

Till Then Keep Reading>>Keep Enjoying

Abhishek

The Winners Day!

Hello Everyone! Hw have u been!! thnx all for reading my previous posts! It was wonderous to have some comments also! Would love for this one also. Ok Let me tell you one thing today, that i m writing this blog only to have ur feedback, so that i may know about how gud i m at writing! You feedbacks will motivate me and can make me pursue a career in it! Anyways, ragging was for first day only and not again after that! Yesterday while reading a GK website, i recalled my later days in school, that was in +2. I was never so active in school as i became in my last year. Always wanted to do something big and sumthing very big! Went to many teachers and seniors in early years for a break, but all in vein! Later i learnt that no one's gonna hear me! its i who have to do! Most of the guys took part in multiple events and thus reducing chances for Guys like us. Where ever i tried, the place was already booked by the same guys taking part in some other event! Now this was frustrating! Even i remember that i once cried for this and punched the wall. Got a pain but with a brilliant idea! thought that why beat myself! beat others but logically!! Beat the System Being in the System! This was the Golden Rule i Tied to my mind. Next Day Morning! Woke up with Great confidence, packed my bags and to school. Attended first four lectures and took a deep breathe in reccess. Had My Lunch in minutes and drunk some water to reduce excitement! Fixed the tie and Shoes, Headed towards academic block! Reached and looked for any classmates. When found nobody there, i thought its best time! Walked some more steps and i was at door of Principal's Chamber! Huhh!! To reach at that spot was not only a big deal for me but it was like How I did! I was amazed at my confidence and thought, Now what?? Knocked the door and was called from inside! "Yes ComeIn" Sister Elaise Jose Our principal was a dashing, White personality! Whole school trembled on her stick and even teachers feared her a lot! It was my not my first encounter with her, as she met me many times in market and i always wished her sweetly. She was astonished to see me in office! "Yes Abhishek, What happend" She added. Breathe which i took very deep, actually fell very deep inside and i was plunged into breathing mess!!! Oh God!! I was breathing heavily and She said "Calm Down boy, M not a devil" She smiled. The Moment she smiled, i was normal and gathered some of my dropped confidence. It happens sometime, that when you encounter a personality which has strong cards in your mind, makes you loose all what u have at that moment. Even i was in +2! i was feared from her a lot! Now as she smiled i broke my silence! "Gud Morning Sister" I uttered. "Yes Gud Morning, anything?" She replied. Now i was total normal and behaved like a diplomat! "Sister, Just wanted to say that, whatever rules our school follows in regard to all round development of child, is not appropriate to some extent!" I uttered it in once. She was amazed to hear such an odd quote from a student! "Why! Do u have any problem!" She quickly asked. "Actually sister, not only I, but many students are there who have problem by this! There are only few students who participates in an event and the same are being took in other events too! That means no new talent is explored" I uttered in a heavy voice. I dont know what happened me at that moment and i just went on speaking and she listening! "Look at Harry(Our class topper) He is participating in every event! In Quiz, Debate, Cricket, Basketball, Theatre, Singing, Dancing... and lots many! We know he can do that, but what about all those who r left behind due to him and many others like him!" I added more and now i was strong at my point!" To my amazement, she was still quite and kept listening! I added more "Sister i think i have a plan, that we already have Houses in school, Red, yellow, blue, green. Why not we keep auditions for every event and let others come forward! By this we will get new faces and more intelligence in school! Teachers Find Students like Harry as their favoutrite and adds them into their events without even puting a notice! We guys even dont know that where he goes amid lectures and what he do in school after school time! We Come to know about his events on the day he performs!!!!!!!!!" She took a breathe and silent dominated for few seconds! Ultimately She shows a movement! She moves her face like she has got a point into it! A sense of relaxation now circulates with my blood and my heartbeat slowers to normal. I start thinking that the work is done now run!! At once she replies "Okk your reccess is over go atend your lectures, i will see!" and she ends the coversation by ringing her peon bell!!! I walks out of the office and feels gud. Students are going into classes and so does I. The excitement of that moment keeps my mind out of lectures and i keep looking on Harry smiling at teacher and she towards him!!
Next Day morning i woke up and again back to school. I entered and what do i see??? Students talking about some House meeting at 1 Pm for some selections!!!! WowWWW..!!! I was now into seventh sky and advanced to notice board. the next moment what i see! "Students WHo want to take Part in Events of this annual year! can meet their house teachers for auditions!!!" Reading that Audition word, i got shocked!! Then a thought pops "Kamaal hai yaar, Itni jaldi!!" hehehe lolzz I run away from moment and meets Harry! "Yaar is baar quiz mai khelunga!(This time i will paly quiz!)" and i smiled to him and thrashed to class! I still remember his helpless face. That day i enjoy a lot! Told my friends about the whole incident and Cheered for Our Victory and My Winning Day!!!!
These days i dont know where he is! never had i met him and nor i tried! After that incident it was full complete year for me to do something with gates opened! and yes i did!! Will tell in next post about my Great Endeavour in that year! Dethroning of Students Like Harry Continued and It was Our Time now!!!
Life is Very Smart! If Taken so... Nothing is Impossible if u can determine! For me It was Difficult to face Principal, but if i was right, I got my point! Always Remember >> If you are Right! Then Even Personality like Anyone Can't Hurt You! It is we who feels hurt....!
So Be Positive! Be Right! and Enjoy Life :):)
Keep Smiling :):):) Keep reading :)
tc
regards, abhishek (Do comment Here! I need for motivation, coz without that i cant write daily!!"

The Infamous Ragging !!!

28th Jan! Another Sunny day! Days After Lohri got much warmer and Sunnier! and yes, thanks to all the readers for spending ur precious time on my blog. love u all :). Had a chat with One of my Favourite Friend and Critic Dildev yesterday. Told him about the blog and got a comment to the last post:). It is gud to have Critics in friends! it becomes more easy and realistic to get success when u find a great critic in ur friend circle! yea Dildev is one of those, who always read my mind and gave me reviews! Though we are very gud frnz, but we usualy share some stupid stuff like Democracies, Presidents, teachers & celebrities! It was nearly 2100 hrs when we had a chat on facebuk, and he remimded me of an embarassing moment of my life! Dont wory m gonaa share it with u guys too!! here i go >> It was My First Night at College hostel and we were 4 guys in a large room for time being (After 2-3 days i was shifted to new hostel). First Night away from home that too 200miles!! and that too for first time! though we were 4 in the room, i was bit scared for that seniors might not encounter us coz they lived just a floor below! rest 3 were gud guys! became gud frnz at once! Had dinner in mess and was returning to my room that was on 3rd floor! whenever i am walking alone i used to think about my past days, and same was i doing at that moment. reached first floor and speeded up as of it was Seniors Zone! Stepped in second floor and looked back there was none! Then turned head and looked front was a guy with a small beard, full fair complexion and a bit brownish eyes! a wrapped head with loose turban and in nickers! i was halted due to his presence. A thought poped in mind and i tried to escape from scene! the thought was "Bhaag Le saale! Senior hai!"lolzzz. Heartbeat was speedy than a rockets propulsion. Now what can one expect on first night in hostel! he grabed my hand and stoped me! "Where the hell are u escaping boy" he quizzed at once! I was silent and thought not to yell any word. "Come with me" he added. I paused for a second and continued with him! It was second floor and some guys of my year on top floor were watching live broadcast of my feared face and were laughing! stopped at a room and then entered there. "oh Hell!!" were the first words into my mind! 3more people sitting on chairs and a guy standing infront of them and answering some questions! Now what! the guy with me sat on another chair and asked me to stand with the guy standing! Dont know, what odds were coming to mind and immediately a guy said "We heard you singing in your room on the tunes of the polyphonic ringtones of your mobile!". I was amazed! Actually they were right! I had a cellphone with polyphonic ringtones and was singing songs in noon after lunch in my room! It was astonishing to hear from them coz i never shouted my songs and how they got to know about it! "Ok start" Another guy added. There were 3 guys who were sitting, one who caught me, one more with a small hieght and one with a giant structure. I said ok but do i need to sing with tunes? They said "Of course! Turn on any ringtone!" I felt shy for a while but as there was not a hall filled of audience, i agreed and opened a ringtone. In the next moment what? I was singing! Suddenly th giant guy said the another victim who was standing near me to dance on my rythms! lol...hahaha I was singing violently and the other guy was dancing like anything! lol.... and the three musketeers were laughing like hell!!
Both us were feeling embarrased and looked on each others faces! I still remember, that guy was acting like the most innocent guy in world and next day he was seen flirting girls!! lol I finished a song and demand for another came! "Okk" I said and enchanted another one! singing and dancing, singing and dancing..... i nearly sang 4 songs and my partner was unstopably dancing closing his eyes as if dancing in meditation!lolzzzzz "Ok thank you very much!" The fair guy said and said to introduce ourselves. After our introduction, they started dispersing and i thought "i shud also know them!" I stopped them "Excuse me Bhaiya! Its only we who introduced, how wud we know you in future!". The giant guy was smiling notoriously and same were others! They stoped and Introduced! "Dildevpreet Singh ME First year! Satinder Singh ECE First Year! and one more i dnt remember his name ECE First year!!!!!!!!!!!!! immediatly after there introduction, it was a silence for a whil, and it broke when we all laughed at once violently for 2 mins! I know the laugh was original for all three but we just laughed to reduce the embarrasment!!!! they went and we kept looking each other miserably and then laughed a bit on our poorness!!it was funny to perform on order and that too to your batchmates! I never told about this to anybody.
Next day Dildevpreet met me in class! and we both chatted for a long time resulting our till now long friendship! On Very next evening all three along with some more 2-3 guys were found under ragging in a seniors room! and i was laughing like hell! Just a Thought Came in mind "Time Time ki baat hai!".....
Dildevpreet as i mentioned at the start of my post, is now one of my favourite pals and critics!!!! You never know who can become a part of your life even you hated him on certain day! So never get embarrased in life!
Learn from incidents and try to improve urself!......Its YOUR LIFE!! MAKE IT LARGE!!!....

tc
Keep Smiling :), Keep reading
regards, abhishek